tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16494120.post1634951095953462858..comments2023-11-02T15:45:08.461+08:00Comments on Healthi-fied Jassy: Letting It Outjassyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08442705714558398654noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16494120.post-30039269122630532212009-10-09T15:37:04.114+08:002009-10-09T15:37:04.114+08:00Ouch. I can definitely relate to the way you are f...Ouch. I can definitely relate to the way you are feeling.<br /><br />The worst thing, I think, is not to be hated or despised, but to be ignored, forgotten, invisible. <br /><br />I went through a pretty bad period a few years ago when I felt alone and forgotten. It was a terrible strain on my marriage, fortunately, I more or less recovered.<br /><br />I think blogging helped in the recovery process. I was pretty lucky back then to come across a number of blogs of people who were sort of at the same stage I was, so it was nice to share with them. Many of them have stoped bloggin now (or very sporadically - and I am guilty of being pretty sporadic these past many months).<br /><br />You hae to recognize that eating is a coping mechanism, a source of comfort. I used to know I shouldn't eat so much, but I didn't care. It comforted me to eat and snack. <br /><br />Now I go for long walks, alone, in a strange land (Madrid, Spain), among people with whom I cannot communicate (I only speak English and some French). I don't really mind it. Somewhere, somehow, in my mind it has finally clicked that I need to lose weight and finally have the drive for it (but, oddly enough, I don'y know what my motivation is. The only thing of importance for me is the goal, the reason for the goal is a mystery).Richardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08466885792177930052noreply@blogger.com